The Power to Choose Your Response - Part III

The more we learn to break down painful interactions into components, and analyze each part, the better able we will be to respond in a way that preserves our relationships rather than damages them.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiDecember 4, 2025response, react, reflection, processing feelings, empathy, maturity, personality, communication, relationships, boundary, peaceComment

The Power to Choose Your Response - Part II

When something hits a nerve and causes a strong reaction in us, it often indicates the need for us to take a closer look at it to understand and work through the underlying cause.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiNovember 27, 2025response, reflection, processing feelings, insight, emotional regulation, pause, relationships, pain, anger, feelings, journaling, triggers, attention, ego, therapy Comments

The Power to Choose Your Response - Part I

When we’re hurt or offended, if we can learn to pause just a bit to calm ourselves, our reasoning will kick in, allowing us to temper the intensity of our emotional responses.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiNovember 20, 2025hurt, pause, feelings, triggers, spirituality, calm, disappointment, regret, reacting, responding, perspective, emotions, emotional regulationComment

The Power of a Smile

If we set an intention to address relationship issues with a bit of humor, we’re more likely to be effective. Smiles beget smiles, brightening not only our moods, but the moods of those around us.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJuly 9, 2025smile, relationships, joy, venting, frustration, communication, friction, love, rejection, affection, companionship, teasing, stress, behavior, personality, grief, loss Comments

Small Gestures, Big Impact

It’s easy for us to focus on what we don’t accomplish. But our family and friends truly appreciate the small, daily actions we take on their behalf in ways we may not even realize.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 23, 2025actions, gestures, kindness, enough, accomplishment, choices, sacrifice, suffering Comments

Reframing Failure

For most people, the path to progress is full of fits and starts. We have to allow room for experimentation with the knowledge that not everything will work out. Failure can be a stepping stone to success.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiApril 30, 2025failure, fail, feelings, optimism, pessimism, stepping stone, overwhelm, rejection, progress, Claudia Luiz, Amy MorinComment

What the World Needs Now

During tumultuous times, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. One remedy is to shift our focus to stories that remind us about the amazing world we live in.

Elaine KlonickiApril 15, 2025Comment

When Halfway is Better Than No Way

Too often we engage in all-or-nothing thinking, forgetting that there are many unique ways to solve problems. Going halfsies is one option.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 19, 2025problems, solutions, creativity, being stuck, obstacle, perfectionism, action, negativity Comments

The Joy of Synergy

The best collaborations create synergy, allowing us to combine different perspectives and ideas until we arrive at a concept that’s better than either one of us could have come up with on our own.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 27, 2025synergy, collaboration, energy, creativity, cooperation, joy, perspective, introversion, confidence, mood, positivity, risks Comments

Cultivating Happiness

We can increase our level of contentment by choosing what we focus on, which rewires our brain. “Happiness is an inside job,” as we’ve heard.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 30, 2025contentment, happiness, brain, focus, positive psychology, science, anxiety, creativity, Rick Hanson, Hardwiring Happiness, negatvity bias, stress, neuropsychology, positive emotions, resiliencyComment

A Different View of Midwinter

Midwinter can be a season to be embraced, not endured. Depending on your need, you can spend the time wintering (resting and reflecting), making resolutions, or choosing an intentional word to focus on for the new year.

Elaine KlonickiJanuary 9, 2025 Comments

The Love of Friends

When we think about the people we love the most, we often think about our family members, yet the love of friends is also central to our well-being.

Elaine KlonickiDecember 19, 2024 Comments

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