The Authentic Lane Blog!

Hi, I’m Elaine.

I like helping people to tap into their best qualities and to recognize and encourage them in others. I’ve spent a lifetime learning how to be happy by living authentically. Being true to ourselves and open and honest with others can be daunting, but it’s so worth it. It’s something that can be learned over time, one concept at a time.

As a lifelong reader and curious observer, for me being authentic often means going a little deeper to get to the heart of the matter. In my posts, I’ll be offering a sincere and thoughtful exploration into the most intimate and emotionally satisfying aspects of personal growth. I’ll also make suggestions, based on my own experiences, about how you can look within and discover who you truly are, with the goal of helping you to create a more fulfilling life for yourself.

If you’re ready to get started, read on!

Posts tagged regret

The Power to Choose Your Response - Part I

When we’re hurt or offended, if we can learn to pause just a bit to calm ourselves, our reasoning will kick in, allowing us to temper the intensity of our emotional responses.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiNovember 20, 2025hurt, pause, feelings, triggers, spirituality, calm, disappointment, regret, reacting, responding, perspective, emotions, emotional regulationComment

Understanding the Need to Please

When we find ourselves giving inauthentic praise and compliments, and saying yes when we really mean no, our confusing response may be a reflexive coping mechanism called fawning.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 14, 2024fawning, people pleasing, fight, flight, freeze, trauma, Pete Walker, guilt, regret, personality, praise, narcissism, triggers, boundaries, unworthiness, habits Comments

How to Handle Regret

Life doesn’t give us the chance to go back and redo what’s already been done. We can ease our feelings of regret by having self-compassion for our mistakes and apologizing to those we’ve harmed, freeing up emotional energy for our relationships going forward.

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