So often when we encounter people who are upset, in our desire to help, we unintentionally fan the flames. The first thing they need is to feel heard and to have their feelings validated. Active listening techniques can help.
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The process of learning to love ourselves is nearly identical to the way we begin to care for a new love interest—one attentive, loving action at a time that, over the course of weeks or months, cements a relationship and builds trust.
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If you’re at a juncture in life, trying to figure out what comes next, do your research and talk to your friends, but then go inside to the deepest part of your true self.
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We can take steps to deliberately shift our mentality to be more in line with what the research shows helps people to realize their innate potential for joy.
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Reading often gives us a new perspective of a situation, which is just what we need to turn our dispositions around.
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Like dealing with an insistent toddler, who only gets louder when his or her needs aren’t attended to, the only way to get our inner voice to relax is to make it feel heard.
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Many spiritual authors believe that our thoughts cause most of our suffering, and we all have the capacity to end our own suffering, allowing for joy to become our predominant emotion.
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The passing of the previous year provides us with a natural transition and a good time to take stock.
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Each of us came into the world as a little babe who knew how to love unconditionally. We just have to learn it again. Thankfully, we can look to the children to show us the way.
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Doing less for others when it’s appropriate means more time for you. It’s a gift you can give yourself that says, “I am important, too.”
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At its best, establishing a deep, human bond with someone yields a joyful feeling which is hard to describe. It’s a type of euphoria different from, but akin to, the feeling of falling in love. It’s mutual regard…the basis for true emotional intimacy.
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When we feel disconnected in our relationships, it’s sometimes hard to describe what’s wrong. We might be vaguely aware of feeling lonely or maybe even irrelevant. But it’s rare that we actually say that we don’t feel seen or heard. Still, perhaps because they represent such elemental human desires, there from birth, those words resonate when we hear them.
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