Just as you Are

It is never too late to learn to give ourselves nurturance and understanding, especially when we make mistakes.

Giving up Control

There is a sense of freedom that comes with not having to be in control of everything all the time. Life ebbs and flows, and sometimes all we can do is go with the current.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 26, 2020maturity, acceptance, anxiety, pandemic, 1918, ambiguity, buoyancy, tension, relaxation, thrashing about, struggle, adversity, Mary O'Malley Comments

A Work in Progress

All of us have times when we resist change. We find comfort and security in sameness. But at other times, when we’re ready, it can be exciting to think about personal renewal and growth.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 19, 2020progress, change, transformation, traumatic events, wake-up call, metamorphosis, Joan Anderson, renewal, courage Comments

Imagine your Future Self

Our “shadow of possibilities" is the self we will grow into if we continue on our path of learning, stretching ourselves so that we become more fully formed.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 12, 2020future self, imagination, dreams, dreaming, potential, possibilities, shadow self, Carl Jung, awareness, therapy, positive traits, learningComment

Need to Talk?

No matter how much you’re struggling, there is always hope. Many people find relief in therapy, which is known as “the talking cure.”

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 5, 2020mixed emotions, dread, emotional storms, mental health, suffering, struggles, psychotherapy, therapy, talk therapy, talking, depression, hope, passion, feedback, vulnerability, preparation Comments

How to Calm Your Busy Mind

Tools like mindfulness and meditation can help lessen suffering by allowing you to handle everyday problems from a more centered place.

How to Cultivate Joy

Sometimes we get so stuck in our struggles that it doesn’t occur to us that there are ways to infuse our lives with more joy, by eliminating the negatives and adding the positives.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJuly 22, 2020happiness, joy, cultivating joy, Facebook, Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu, suffering, struggles, joyful momentsComment

How Managing Expectations Helps Prevent Disappointments

It’s human nature to want things to go our way. But the more tightly we hold onto our ideas of how things should be, the more we are disappointed when they don’t turn out that way. Managing our expectations can help.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJuly 15, 2020disappointment, expectations, acceptance, 2020, dreams, perfectionism, high standards, reacting, adapting, flexibility, relationshipsComment

Embracing the Concept of Good Enough

The pandemic has caused us to learn many new skills, and to change some of the ways we parent. In both cases, we are better served by keeping the emphasis on trying, and on good enough, rather than perfect, outcomes.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJuly 8, 2020perfectionism, self-compassion, sourdough, good enough, DIY, stress, uncertainty, conscientious, anxiety, exhaustion, pauseComment

Speaking our Truth

It takes courage to stand up for ourselves and have difficult conversations, but doing so can actually improve, rather than damage, our relationships.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJuly 1, 2020truth, standing up for ourselves, Lady Gaga, Julie Andrews, Tony Bennet, mental health, Born This Way Foundation, bullying, difficult conversations, burying our feelings, self-esteem, relationships, emotional health, communication Comments

Why Holding Space is a Better Way to Help

Sometimes when someone shares a problem with us, it can throw us into a frame of mind where we feel compelled to take quick action on their behalf. A better idea is to let them know you have confidence in their ability to work through things themselves.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 24, 2020helping, holding space Comments

5 Things to Consider Before Giving Advice

Before we consider giving advice, we should pause and think about how it might be received. There are ways to soften the offering, but sometimes the best thing to do is to hold space for someone instead.

Elaine KlonickiJune 17, 2020giving advice, counseling others, giving suggestions, wisdom, body language, the urge to help, self-esteem, dependency, autonomy, self-respect, overstepping, holding space, balance, sensitivity Comments

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